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Is being obsessed with success helpful or harmful?

Every where you look you will find a “get rich quick” scheme or a “lose 40 pounds in three weeks” ad.  This raises an interesting question.  Is being obsessed with success helpful or harmful? While it’s true that there is no substitute for hard work, being completely consumed with being successful might be more of a trap and cause a person to become shortsighted and more prone to give up on their goals.  Most people would applaud the attributes that are required to make a person successful and so do I, however, I do think there is something to be said for people who take time to reassess their plan and stop and smell the roses along the way.  I’m sure the people who are reading this who know me may find it hypocritical that i’m talking about stopping and smelling the roses since my personal creed is “work as hard as you can, as long as you can”.  I must admit however that when I have taken breaks to go see a movie or to round out myself with a hobby it has provided me with much more concentration on working towards my goals.  So how can you balance your aggressive desire to be the best with living life?  I’ll tell you below.



  1. Create a physical outlet for yourself: There is nothing better for our concentration than engaging in physical activity.  Physical activity has been proven to have an affect on brain function, causing the person who is exercising to be able to focus better and even improve memory.  We are all guilty at one point or another in our life of piling our plates so high that things fall off, we start to forget things and it makes us less productive.  Having a physical outlet changes the game, allowing us to work off mental stress that can bog down our thoughts.
  2. Detach from electronics: Every week you should have at least one or two days without using your phone.  The cell phone can be a constant reminder of what we have to do and when we have to do it.  The cell phone also has a way of keeping our minds captive with what we are missing and who is trying to get in touch with us.  When we detach ourselves even if only for a few hours our stress level will plummet and you will feel present in the moment.
  3. Have work friends and social friends: Some times you just don’t always want to talk shop, but the more we spend time around people we also work with, the more likely we are going to talk about office politics and who said what to stab who in the back.   It is nice to be able to spend time with people who have absolutely no connection to what we do at work because then you can talk about other interest you have in a more well rounded way.  With that haven been said, it is also important to have work friends because those friends can help sympathize with you when something goes wrong at work and you create a nice community around your work, the place where most Americans spend their time.
  4. Get a hobby: One of the best ways to relax and take your mind off of the stresses of work is to find a hobby.  I’ve personally recently taken up archery.  This hobby is great because it will take a long time to get good.  Heck it might take me a long time to get the arrow on the target stand.  I think the key to a good hobby is to find one that your interested in, but your not necessarily good at because this will allow you to grow into the hobby over time.
  5. Purge Negative Influences: There is nothing that can bog down someone mentally more than negative influences in our lives.  Whether it is people, experiences or environments, break free from these influences that can keep you feeling trapped and unable to achieve balance in your life.  You only have one shot at living the life you want to live and why waste it around people and environments that suppress your goals and plans. (click here to read the blog post on living the life you want) 



“When you stay focused and keep a commitment you create momentum, and momentum creates momentum.” – Rich Fettke
There’s no doubt that creating a focus on your goals and plans in your life that is laser like, can help you build momentum towards your goals.  You may see some people in your life who you consider successful who just seem to always get the breaks or always find the opportunities.  They may call it being obsessed with success but what it really is, is that they maintain their focus and always are prepared when opportunities come around.  Obsession can cause you to miss opportunities because you may lose your ability to remain adaptable to the world around you, thus losing your ability to change as the world changes.  In the end obsession can make you miss the mark and make you intolerable to be around.  So is obsession helpful or harmful?  Think about your life, think about how you view your work and social life.  The answer can always be found in what your view is about success and life.  Focus is different from obsession, focus is like an unstoppable train progressing towards the end destination.  Obsession is like an airplane without a pilot, you can fly high, you have power, but ultimately no direction and when things go wrong, watch out!  Stay positive, focused and achieve balance in your life and you will accomplish more than you thought you ever could.


Here’s to your success,




How to develop your Mastery Mindset

With the advent of internet, we’ve turned almost anyone nowadays with a computer and internet connection into an “expert” when it comes to various topics.  We glorify the instant gratification of simply having news first as it’s breaking not really caring about whether the source is accurate initially.  We (Society) also tends to elevate people that simply have a large following into an “expert” just because they have a lot of followers on twitter, facebook or instagram.  Whatever happened to the time when a person had to develop and master a skill or thought process over a period of time before they were coronated as king?  There are times when having a great idea and lots of start up money can make you a billion dollars, see: facebook, uber, twitter, etc.  However, most of the time success is a slower process requiring years of testing, adaptation, practice, failure and then success.  Thousands of hours spent working on a craft or concept that refines a person’s skills and ability to think on their feet.



It doesn’t matter what you do, or where you do it, in order to be considered the best at whatever you decide to engage in it requires, hundreds if not, thousands of hours before you have a mastery of it.  Make no mistake, having mastery over what activity or undertaking you’re engaging in is just as satisfying for you as it is for others to watch you perform.  Mental mastery contributes to a higher level of focus and it helps to turn your goals into extremely high level of productivity.  Mastering your craft, helps to separate the wheat from the chaff, in that understanding the nuances of whatever you’re engaged in allows you to be able to adapt faster and think on a higher level than those around you who are engaging in the same type of work.



Look at anyone who is successful in the world today and and I will tell you that they’ve mastered something in their life.  Donald Trump (like him or not) marketing, Bill Gates computer technology, Steve Jobs (RIP) marketing.  These individuals have mastered their fields and understand the nuances of everything they engage in.  Success starts with the desire to want to dominate your field or the market place and the only way to do that is to master your craft and spend time learning how to become a master at what you do.  Success is a direct result of a person’s ability to master at least one thing and do it so well it can’t be confused with anyone else’s work.


  1. Practice: It’s said that in order to master a skill completely it takes 10,000 hours (417 days for all of you who need a break down).  Every one develops and has different levels of understanding so for some perhaps it would take longer than it would for others, however, life is not about one skill.  Life is a combination of many skills that allow a person to be successful.  Therefore patience is needed to create a mastery over a complete skill set, so keep working
  2. Create Your Environment: “The first step toward success is taken when you refuse to be a captive of the environment in which you first find yourself.” – Mark Caine.  If you are not in an environment that helps you to focus on mastering skills you need to create an atmosphere that fosters focus, learning and positive thinking.  Remember that your environment also includes people in your life too.  You should spend time with people who are masters in their respective fields because this will reenforce the commitment and mentality for you to succeed in yours.
  3. Rid Yourself of Your Pride: As you develop and you begin to let others observe your skill and even put your work out to the public, you may find that others may comment on your work sometimes critically.  You have to have a thick skin, you should think, is there really something true in the criticism that I can learn from to improve my skill or the way I execute
  4. Forget Everything You Know: You have to be willing to have a fluid thoughts, unlearning the things you think you know from people who have already done what you want to do.  You have to be willing to learn from various places not limiting yourself to just one particular way of thinking or performing
  5. Strong Fundamentals:  In order to become a master you must first have an expert grasp of the fundamentals of whatever you’re doing, the ability to perform fundamentally with precision and accuracy


Here’s to your success